Girls Can be “Creepy,” Too!

Posted on June 22, 2012 by


We girls have our own struggles and faults and ways that we can smother guys and make them feel squeamish around us.  Sometimes we have no idea that what we are doing is a turn off to men.  So let’s go over some things that will usually repel guys and talk about what to do instead.  Guys, you are welcome to comment!  Your perspective is VERY valuable to this discussion!

HOW TO REPEL, OFFEND, ANNOY AND CREEP OUT MEN

  • Chase him – call him first/ask him out first/tell him you love him first/announce you are officially dating first/propose to him first.  DO NOT LET HIM LEAD!  SHOW HIM YOU ARE THE BOSS!
  • Immediately begin discussing marriage and having children the day you meet him.
  • Be EXTREMELY intense about him.  Ignore his uncomfortable body language.
  • Don’t give him enough personal space.
  • Dump all of your emotional baggage and painful past relationship info in the greatest detail on him on the first or second date.
  • Treat him like he is your personal therapist.
  • Call him/text him A LOT.  The more you call/email/text him the more creepy and off-putting it is.  Some girls seriously will call a guy 40-80 times a day.   That is NOT a turn on!  A girl who does that is identifying herself as someone who is so needy that she is drowning and will try to drag a guy under with her. Any healthy guy will run from this situation!
  • Tell him how to drive, what to wear, what to eat, how to do his job, what to say.
  • Correct him when he is telling someone a story.
  • Tell him he HAS to buy you a ring, or else!
  • Follow him out of the room when he leaves because he is upset and keep hounding him to MAKE him finish the conversation and do what you want him to do.
  • Call/text him back immediately if he hangs up on you and keep calling every time he hangs up.  then leave 20 messages when he won’t pick up the phone anymore.
  • Interrogate him about exactly where he every minute of the day
  • Stalking is creepy when a woman does it to a guy, too.  Guys don’t usually want to be followed all over town.
  • Be upset like an angry mother most of the time.
  • Look mad, upset, disappointed as often as possible.
  • Argue a lot.
  • Tell him he’s wrong and constantly insist that you are always right.
  • Demand things of him.
  • Pitch a fit when you don’t get your way.
  • Yell, scream, cuss, throw things.
  • Be really aggressive with him.
  • Be violent.
  • Insist on your own way no matter what the cost.
  • Cry and lose control of your emotions as often as possible.
  • Tell all your family and friends about all of his faults.
  • Make fun of him in public.
  • Tease his weaknesses.
  • Complain constantly.
  • Hate his family.
  • Try to change him.  Do not accept him as he is.  Let him know clearly that he is not “good enough” for you.
  • Don’t forgive him.  Hold every mistake against him and resent him for it.  Bring up all of his past mistakes often.
  • Call him at work often after he’s asked you not to.
  • Show up at his work often and at inappropriate times.
  • Emasculate his manhood by criticizing his ideas, plans, dreams, goals and decisions.
  • Tell him what to do often
  • Act like he can’t handle responsibilities on his own.  Treat him like he is incapable, irresponsible, immature and in need of your brilliant instructions
  • If he breaks up with you, continue calling/texting/emailing every few minutes to explain why he should still be with you and to argue with him about what a mistake it was that he left you.
  • Be as insecure and needy as possible.
  • Do not get your joy from God, don’t spend time with God.
  • Make your guy or a relationship or the idea of marriage your idol.

HOW A GODLY WOMAN ATTRACTS MEN:

  • Her faith is squarely in Christ, she knows her identity is in Him.
  • She has a continual internal source of joy through Jesus.
  • She is calm and at peace.
  • She is flexible and cooperative.
  • She gives grace easily.
  • She is forgiving.
  • She smiles a lot.
  • She genuinely respects her man and it shows.
  • She is pleasant to be around.
  • She enjoys life and sees each day as an exciting adventure with God.
  • She knows the Bible well and she LIVES it.
  • She isn’t anxious or worried very often.
  • She dresses femininely, beautifully and modestly.
  • She cherishes chastity, purity and the gift of her sexuality and keeps it safeguarded for marriage.
  • She knows her value to God and to men and is a challenge to win.  She is not “easy” at all.
  • She knows how to communicate her feelings, desires and ideas respectfully and gently.
  • She has control over her emotions, tone of voice and volume.
  • She is secure in Christ.  She is secure in her man’s love.  She doesn’t get overwhelmed by raging doubts.
  • She knows her gifts and uses them well.
  • She is humble and understands that God’s wisdom is much higher than her own.
  • She is humble and appreciates that her man has a valuable perspective and wisdom that she doesn’t have but that she can benefit greatly from.
  • She is patient.  She doesn’t rush a guy or push him.  She lets him lead graciously.  She may slow him down a bit, but she never tries to force herself on a guy or rush to the next phase of the relationship.  She enjoys the journey and savors the present moment.
  • She is easy to delight and please.
  • She is grateful in everything.
  • Problems don’t shake her faith or her composure.
  • She understands godly masculinity, appreciates it, compliments it and knows the power of her godly femininity to empower godly masculinity.
  • She doesn’t try to control people.
  • She knows her heart and mind.
  • She doesn’t have to say every thought that’s on her mind.  She has discretion and godly wisdom.
  • She has godly girlfriends.
  • She treats her dad and teachers and other authorities with honor and respect.
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