I am a 40 year old very happily married wife and mother of 2 wonderful children, and a part time pharmacist. My husband and I will celebrate our 20th anniversary this year. I have been a believer since I was a child- but the past 5 years have been a rich journey for me – studying what real, godly femininity is all about, real masculinity, God’s design for marriage and for women, and how to practically live out a godly life as a woman.
I have gone from being a fairly controlling, kind of bossy, critical, anxious wife to a wife with a gentle and peaceful spirit who does not give way to fear – a woman of true, feminine beauty in the eyes of God and my husband! I have learned what joy comes to a marriage when a wife genuinely respects her husband and follows his leadership – the transformation for myself, my husband and our marriage was nothing short of miraculous. I have learned to become my husband’s biggest supporter and to step down out of the leadership position to allow him the opportunity to be the godly leader that God desires him to be. God has changed me in ways I could never have imagined. He has made me into the woman I have always longed to be. We have the marriage of our dreams, and even more importantly, the marriage God desires us to have thanks to all that God has done!
How I WISH I had known what I know now way before I was married, or even dating! This generation of young women is paying a heavy price for following the world’s ways. In the 1960s the Baby Boomers questioned the authority and existence of God, the authority of God’s Word, the authority of husbands over wives, the authority of parents over children and undermined every God-given authority in existence. Our culture decided to remake the identity of women, of marriage, of men, and parenthood. We can’t help but absorb some very unbiblical ideas from it, and it is time to question those things, and look to the light of God’s Word to see what is truth. If we don’t turn from the world and embrace God’s ways, our nation is heading for disaster. We are already well on our way there now.
Ideally, I believe that mothers and fathers would be equipping their daughters, preparing them for marriage, training them in godliness, teaching them the way of virtue, chastity, faith in Christ, teaching them to guard their hearts and purity, protecting them, modeling for them what it means to be a godly woman, a godly man, to have a godly marriage, to live out a Spirit-filled life of obedience to Christ. But reality today is that many girls are falling through the cracks and desperately need a godly female mentor to point the way to Christ and the life He desires them to live.
SOMEONE needs to stand up, stand in the gap, pray for and teach the precious young women of God’s beloved church!
I desire to speak God’s truth, to help girls see the world’s lies and to point them toward Christ and living with Him as Lord in their lives each day. The topics I discuss are topics that are critical to our girls’ future, their marriages, their purity and their relationship with Christ. I desire to bring God’s voice to young women and give them the chance to discover His ways and His best for them.
I pray that God might use me to help young women on their journey to learn to obey Him even when it’s not politically correct and sometimes very counterintuitive. I pray that God might be greatly glorified in my marriage and my spirit and writing. I pray that everything I write might be biblically based and centered on the authority of God. My wisdom is SO USELESS. Only God’s wisdom is of value. I pray that all who read what I write might embark on their own personal journey of tasting and discovering that God is so very good. His ways are best. His wisdom is so much higher than our own. Only in knowing and obeying Christ can we find the paths that lead to abundant life, fulfillment, peace and joy – whether we are married or single!
I write from the perspective of a woman who was very Type A, driven, controlling and take-charge with a passive husband. If you tend to be more quiet and shy and have difficulty expressing yourself or you are with a more domineering man – my blog may not be the best fit for you. If you are experiencing abuse from a man, PLEASE find godly help ASAP! That goes way beyond the scope of my writing. Please do not read my blog but seek help right away if you are being abused.
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