Browsing All posts tagged under »controlling woman«

Put Your Hands in the Air, and Step Away from the GUILT-TRIPPING!

November 4, 2012 by


What is guilt exactly? Wikipedia defines guilt as: Guilt (emotion) is an emotion that occurs when a person believes that they have violated a moral standard. Please notice that guilt can happen even when we haven’t done something wrong.  If we believe we have done something wrong – we will experience guilt even if God does […]

Control and Boundaries

November 3, 2012 by


I’m going to be talking about some of the aspects that often accompany the idolatry of self, or of trying to be in control oneself.  This is the part of  a series of posts that will cover guilt, codependency, martyrdom and people-pleasing. I was a committed Christian from the time I was a child.  I […]


August 18, 2012 by


This process of learning to respect our men and honor their leadership is a VERY painful process – especially at first.   There are no short cuts!!   This is not just some self-help 10 steps to controlling your man and getting everything you want by changing your words and tone of voice.  My motives MATTER here! […]

If I am “Right” … but Don’t Have Love and Respect – then I am Wrong!

August 3, 2012 by


If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal.  If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am […]

An Update on the Fly Swatter Incident

July 26, 2012 by

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After I sent Jane (not her real name) my take on her situation with her husband (if you missed it or need a refresher on what happened, please read the original post ) – she sent me an email. She came from a background of verbal, emotional and sexual abuse. She had a very dominant […]

A Dissection of a Disrespectful Conversation – Part 1

July 16, 2012 by


This is an email I received from a wife who has given me permission to use a conversation she and her husband had.  I want to use it as an example of how we might inadvertently come across disrespectfully and in a controlling way to our guys and cause damage we don’t even realize we are causing.  Her words […]