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She Is Worth Far More Than Rubies

June 9, 2014 by


  Rough rubies, sell for about $900-$7000 for a small bag of them. A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. Her children arise […]

Making Things Right with Those We Have Hurt – DaughteroftheKing

April 30, 2014 by


Our cherry tree this spring 🙂 Here is an update from DaughteroftheKing – the college student (who has been a believer in Christ for about a year) with whom I have been corresponding about her perfectionism , people pleasing and the stress and pressure she puts on herself to try to have extremely high grades and […]

DaughteroftheKing – Reworking Priorities

April 13, 2014 by

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We continue sharing the correspondence between DaughteroftheKing, a college student, and myself about people pleasing and perfectionism.  (Please check here for Part 1, Part 2 and Part 3). Her words are in italics. —— Right now it feels like I’m stuck in this process, I’m sensing that there is something wrong but I can’t really […]

DaughteroftheKing Does a Thorough Self-Examination – Part 3

April 12, 2014 by

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I continue corresponding with DaughteroftheKing. (Check out Part 1 and Part 2 if you missed them.) Her words are in italics. I believe that you just might find out some surprising things about yourself if you are willing to examine your heart along with us today. 🙂 1. You need success in school and in […]

Examining the Real Motives behind Perfectionism and People Pleasing

April 11, 2014 by


This is part 2 of my correspondence with DaughteroftheKing, a college student who has been a Christian for about a year. For part 1, please click here. Her words are in italics. I pray that this conversation may be eye opening for you, too. And I thank this precious sister in Christ for allowing me […]

I Have to Have High Grades and Be the BEST!

April 9, 2014 by


I am working with a precious sister in Christ who is a college student. We will call her Daughteroftheking. We are going to be addressing some idols – like having other’s approval, having to have high grades at all costs and perfectionism.  I personally had these idols,too. So I am pretty familiar with them. This […]