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Preparing Our Hearts for a Review of “Through a Man’s Eyes” by Shaunti Feldhahn and Craig Gross

July 31, 2015 by

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Shaunti Feldhahn is one of my favorite authors. She is a social researcher and Christian author who does large scale, statistically accurate surveys of men and women to discover how we think and relate to each other. What a blessing to the Body of Christ! Her book, “For Women Only,” was the book that most […]

Preparing to Marry a Man on a Mission

July 25, 2015 by

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Some of you are considering marrying a man who believes he has a calling from God to be a pastor, a minister, a missionary, or something similar. I believe that extra care and prayer is wise as you prepare for such a venture. There will be additional challenges that other couples may not face. Of […]

“Putting the Breaks on Sexual Temptation with My Boyfriend”

July 14, 2015 by

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A guest post by Surrenderedgirl – I am excited to share what God is doing in her life. May her post bless your walk with Christ, as well: I met my boyfriend on a college church retreat at the beach. He was the first boyfriend I ever had, and he swept me off my feet. […]

I Made My Boyfriend into an Idol – by Surrenderedgirl

July 10, 2015 by

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A guest post by Surrenderedgirl – I’m so thankful for the opportunity to share what God is doing in this dear sister’s life. May her post richly bless you, as well: After several months of dating, I had built up resentment towards my boyfriend. I don’t naturally talk about my feelings much, so I would […]

“I Won’t Let My Man Do Something I Think Is Dangerous”

June 25, 2015 by

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A lot of *girlfriends and wives have this viewpoint today. We try to forbid our men from doing the things our guys love to do that could possibly cause injury. We think we are doing this out of love and that we are “protecting our men.” But is this a wise approach? Will it draw […]

Unlearning the Ungodly Example of a Controlling, Disrespectful Mother

January 23, 2015 by

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  Unfortunately, some of us learned to be controlling and disrespectful by the poor examples of our mothers. If we have witnessed a dominant, type-A, perfectionistic, manipulative, overly emotional, resentful, bitter, controlling, fearful, anxious, disrespectful wife and a passive, unplugged father for 20+ years – these dynamics can seem “normal” and “right.” These moms did […]

Men Share How They Believe Romantic Movies/Books Affect Women’s Expectations of Men – Part 1

January 12, 2015 by

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My questions for the men: 1. In what ways do romantic books/songs/movies portray men emotionally that do not accurately represent how men think or feel in your opinion? 2. In what ways do romantic books/songs/movies portray men verbally that do not accurately represent how men express themselves? 3. What romantic expectations – or expectations of […]

“When Do I Feel More Secure in the Relationship?”

December 21, 2014 by

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  This is the last question that this precious single sister in Christ asked me: 3. When does it switch? Is there a moment when you feel slightly more secure and able to “relax” in the security of your relationship? My man is a great guy but I do wonder what it would be like […]

How Do You Prepare for the Reality of Marriage without Making Marriage an Idol?

December 5, 2014 by

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From a single sister in Christ: The background: I am dating a really, really nice guy. He is a believer and I haven’t seen any red flags. I mention this b/c I believe that he is a man of strong, compelling character. Where we differ is in how we express our emotions, specifically love. We […]

Why Men Leave

November 25, 2014 by

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  FROM A BROTHER IN CHRIST IN RESPONSE TO MY POST YESTERDAY: When a guy leaves, it is pretty important that a girl know that he may have a variety of motivators. For instance, I vanished from one girl’s life because although she was fun sometimes, she was a top-rate complainer and would get very […]