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Instead of Reacting in Anger…

February 26, 2015 by


When someone does something that offends you or they sin against you, how do you usually respond? I’d love to encourage us all to take a time out to go pray and journal through our thoughts, anger, motives, and priorities if possible before we respond. It is easy to have a sinful knee-jerk response to […]

Unlearning the Ungodly Example of a Controlling, Disrespectful Mother

January 23, 2015 by


  Unfortunately, some of us learned to be controlling and disrespectful by the poor examples of our mothers. If we have witnessed a dominant, type-A, perfectionistic, manipulative, overly emotional, resentful, bitter, controlling, fearful, anxious, disrespectful wife and a passive, unplugged father for 20+ years – these dynamics can seem “normal” and “right.” These moms did […]

“Do I Get to Punish My Man If He Upsets Me?”

December 15, 2014 by

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I have a very detailed post about this topic as it relates to a wife and husband on my other blog here, and I go into many ways wives may attempt to punish their husbands as well as what a wife can do if she is unhappy with her husband. But let’s talk a bit about this […]

Triggers for Sinful Thoughts

September 11, 2014 by


A few weeks ago, I conducted a survey to determine what some of our greatest triggers are  that get us thinking in a downward spiral of sinful thoughts. Of those who answered, here are the results (please remember that ladies could vote for as many of these as are triggers for them): reading other people’s […]

GraceAlone Has a Breakthrough in Understanding Her Husband’s Perspective

March 29, 2014 by


We are continuing to follow GraceAlone’s progress as she began this journey to become a godly wife about 3 weeks ago. I hope to correspond with a few women who are willing to share their stories (married and single) so that maybe many more wives might be blessed and encouraged as they embark on their […]

GraceAlone Takes another Step

March 28, 2014 by

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  GraceAlone continues on her journey of tearing out idols, recognizing and repenting of sin and learning to trust Christ with everything. She is married, so some of her idols may be different from those of single women, but this process of seeing sin, agreeing with God that it is sin, turning away from sin […]

Men Have Expectations, Too – GraceAlone’s Journey

March 17, 2014 by

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Correspondence between GraceAlone and Peacefulwife. Peacefulwife’s words are in blue. Eventually, I plan to share GraceAlone’s posts and updates more on a weekly basis. But – there is SO MUCH to dig through in the beginning, and I am excited to share the insights she is experiencing. So – let’s continue with her journey again today. […]

Finding Contentment in All Seasons

January 14, 2014 by


A guest post by Malika Cox.  Thank you so much for sharing! 🙂 ABOUT MALIKA I’m Malika Cox from Oklahoma City. I spent my younger years battling addictions, self-destructive behavior and low self-esteem. I was involved in the underground music and goth scene in both New York City and New Orleans. In December of 1996, […]

Who Is Calling Us Out on Our Sin?

December 21, 2013 by


Administrative note: I am taking an email vacation until January 7th.  You may comment on posts – but I would appreciate it if everyone could hold emails for a few weeks, please.  Thanks for your patience and understanding! 🙂 I don’t know if you realize this, but almost no one in the church is confronting […]

Replacing the “Tapes” in My Head

December 5, 2013 by


Before God radically changed my mind, heart and soul over the past 5 years, I would constantly have “tapes” playing in my head where I was always talking to myself about things – a running narrative of worry, fear, trying to figure out every possible “what if” scenario and basically, trying to figure out how […]